Words mean very little to someone like me. Even your behavior can be deceptive. But your body? She whispers all your secrets to me. When we meet, she and I will get along famously. And I might see what you can’t – I might see your inner-most private desires. I call this “Body Whispering.” And, in the new Netflix documentary Strip Down, Rise Up there are several scenes where I body whisper a client.
“Body Whisper? What is that?!”
This is one of the most common questions I’m being asked today, so let me tell you all about it.
Body Whispering is the skill of seeing micro-muscular impulses and micro-muscular movements which are almost invisible movements that the body makes toward or away from something in the environment. Toward food or sustenance. Toward a challenge. Toward Love, away into flight, or frozen into freeze.
Let me show you what I mean by giving you an example of a woman I know… let’s call her Lydia.
Lydia and I are at a business seminar together and she sits in the corner of a room. Her hands are folded across her lap. She is holding a book she’s reading. Her legs are crossed at the knees. To most, she seems relaxed and happy with this little slice of privacy she has created in an otherwise bustling room.
But what do I notice? I notice that her mouth is tense and pulled down at the right corner. I notice her eyes flash occasionally toward a small group of men about 10 feet from where she sits. I notice her crossed leg is bouncing and shaking repetitively. I notice that her body is desperately uncomfortable and is holding in an enormous amount of energy. Instead of a woman who is confident in her aloneness, what I see is a woman wanting to be included but being too scared to allow herself to be.
It’s clear to me that her body is patterned to protect herself against rejection. She moves from a place of unhealthy fear – and while she so desperately wants to be a part of the room, she is afraid that those in the room won’t accept her.
To body whisper is to reach into the depth of a person’s body and speak to their soul. It is to pierce the veil of the ego to intermingle with the most radiant life force beneath. This intermingling allows the deep stories of your body’s experience to be shared, seen, moved and celebrated.
Here’s what I’d Love to do to help Lydia. First, I would suggest she put away her book. I would encourage her to stand up and find her curving body in a slow walk around the dining room. I’d tell her to slow her stride – to take a long delicious inhale as she takes one step and then a long delicious exhale as she takes another step. I would encourage her to place one hand on her heart and just listen. I’d tell her to feel the rhythm of the room and of her body. I’d tell her to breathe in the aroma of some sweet and musky essential oil. I’d tell her to simply allow her consciousness to be present in her body. I call this brain immersion.
All of these activities would soothe her body and put her body into a less reactive place. It would encourage Lydia to begin to unravel her unconscious body presence and step closer to the life she is truly desiring to have – one of connection, pleasure and ease.
We all know someone like Lydia – maybe you’re reading this thinking you areLydia at times. And that’s OK! It’s revelations like this that truly speak to the beauty and healing capabilities that body whispering can offer – because, as I said above, when I body whisper I am truly seeing a person. And we all deserve to be seen.
To practice body whispering, as I do, means I work at the pinnacle of my intuitive capabilities. This skill can serve me, and has for those I work with, at the most opportune times. Because, when we use our body to speak for us (no real words need to be spoken); the world becomes seamless, graceful and much more real.
Body whispering is not just a talent I use at S Factor or in the now streaming Netflix Documentary – Strip Down Rise Up. It also becomes mighty handy at the homestead… and it’s something we can all use at home. Especially as we continue to navigate this increasingly strange era we are all living through right now.
Let me show you what this looks like in real time. Here’s a typical day of body whispering at my house:
When Ruby, my daughter, is angry her left shoulder raises about 1/2 inch higher than her right. Her bottom lip purses ever so slightly, and her eyes close by a millimeter. When I see her like this, before I even open my mouth, I gently put my hands on her shoulders and lovingly rub them. Almost 100% of the time she softens – she releases. And, through this simple act, the wildcat is soothed.
When Gus, my son, is in a good mood he has a certain walk about him. It’s slightly open footed and his toes kick into the air with each step. I watch for this in his body because, when his happy walk is here, there’s a 99% chance he will say “yes” to running to the grocery store for me :).
When Richard is feeling anxious his voice tightens and his whole body becomes springy with tension like a wind-up toy that’s been wound up too tight – you know, right before it snaps. This is my cue to head for the highlands. When I see this, I leave him alone… But not before I find the coolest Coltrane playlist on Spotify and put it on in the background of whatever room he is in. Music will calm my savage beast.
Body whispering with those you Love can make you a better, healthier and happier Love, mother, friend, and/or daughter. And it’s now that we need this more than ever. It’s an emotional roller coaster out there my friends. The safest thing to do is get off the ride and get over to the control panel. It’s only by doing this that you can start to live your brilliantly Epic Life with your brilliantly Epic Body.
So I have a challenge for you – this week, I want you to practice body whispering with yourself. Each morning, after you’ve brushed your teeth, I want you to stand in the mirror and gaze at yourself for one minute. Let your eyes scan your body and just notice what’s going on there – are your shoulders slumped? Are your eyebrows raised? Are your lips curving into a smile? Are your eyes avoiding contact? Take a look each day because, I want you to guess what feelings may be hiding beneath the surface of your skin based on the way your body looks and moves.
I can’t wait to hear about what you find. Please share with me here in the comments, or head over to my Instagram and chat to me there!
