For anyone in the world who wants to feel safe to explore their feminine: Welcome to my blog. I’ve been looking for a warm, secure space in a dangerous world for a long time. Why? Because, in most places, the feminine gets shut down and shamed. It gets told to be smaller and less radiant. But not here. I’ve looked high and low for this space, online and off. But since Covid-19 has grounded most of us at home, that search has led me here. To this feminine sanctuary where I can dive into conversation and connection with people like you.
This is a blog for any feminine creature who is looking for intimacy, inspiration, kindness, radical love, acceptance, and sisterhood. This is a place where we can talk about things that we might not feel comfortable talking about anywhere else. Everywhere I go, and in everything I read, there is so much judgement, discomfort and distrust. And the world is full of so many opinions – people telling you what to think, what to say, and how to be. Fear, anger, and righteousness seem to be reigning supreme. This is a place to share secrets, safely. We can talk about our bodies, our lives, our loves, and our desires. We can be unguarded in our truths with each other. We can have conversations about things that most people don’t get to talk about in their everyday lives – things like lust, libido, love, and sex. We can talk about the women who have inspired us the most, as well as the mean girls out there and why they’re still being mean to each other. Nothing is off limits… so, let’s go!
Let’s begin by setting some ground rules. Love prevails. Kindness is Queen. Beauty of the heart and soul is what we seek. Reclamation of our feminine bodies and freedom is where we’re headed.
Why I call my blog The Epics:
Twenty years ago, I stumbled into something that transformed my life from mediocre to extraordinary in a matter of moments. Think: leaving Kansas and finding Oz, or living in shades of grey only to awaken, suddenly, to the world of bright technicolor. The transformational moment that changed everything for me was when I learned to move my body in a way that I had never moved it before. I know this may seem strange (I thought so too) but hear me out. This moment of movement was a hip circle. Not just any hip circle but a giant and I mean giant, slow hip circle that unlocked my pelvis from years of straight linear movement. And, it wasn’t just a physical unlocking that occurred. What came along with unlocking my hip joint was a release. A release of years and years of shame and repression; years of making myself smaller to make others more comfortable in my presence; years of playing it safe to avoid backlash, judgement, condescension and ostracization; years of fitting my feminine essence into our masculine world.
Once my hips opened up, the rest of my body followed suit – my upper body unlocked, my back elongated, my legs released. My shoulders freed and my chest opened. Here I was, suddenly and radiantly accessing the full potential of my body through movement. Then, I added sexy stilettos, pole shorts, and a pole. These small, taboo items turned me into what I can only describe as the sexual super heroine version of myself. It took my body about four months to become comfortable being in her state of new and full self expression. During this time, I practiced this newfound movement daily. I wore my stilettos, and pole shorts, and I danced around a pole. In this time, I learned that if I just trusted my body, she would lead me to nirvana.
Every time I’ve practiced feminine movement I felt ecstatic. After every dance, I had a smile on my face that wouldn’t go away for hours. I wanted to feel that ecstasy every moment of my everyday life and not just when I was doing the S Factor movement. Surely enough, the more comfortable I was with myself when dancing, the more comfortable I became in allowing this radiant version of myself to ripple out into my life… and ripple out it did! This new me began to ooze into every crevice and every corner of my life. Suddenly, everything around me was pulsating in a state of ecstatic bliss.
What I quickly realized was that maintaining this state of bliss in a world that, quite frankly, feared women being so powerful was not an easy thing to do. So, I created the Living Breathing Life Guide. It helped me learn how to follow my body into pleasure instead of following where my mind told me to go. And it worked, even in moments when my mind felt like it was screaming at me. Like all of us, I had been so conditioned to live in a state where I denied myself pleasure – even simple pleasures – but the Living Breathing Life Guide helped me conquer that every time. It allowed me to find happiness. It allowed me to stumble, sweetly and easily, into ecstasy time and time again. It was magical!
I stopped trying to think my way into pleasure and fulfillment. Instead, I listened to my body. I began planning my life around its needs and desires. I began to look at life through the lens of this living, breathing, beautiful creature’s eyes. And my body quickly rewarded me with everything I wanted and needed. I dedicated myself to this new way of living, and soon enough it became so easy that it began to feel like I had simply tripped into my own personal wonderland.
Then came the most powerful part of this crazy body story: I had been having troubles in my marriage for years. We had a tempestuous, stormy love. Ten years in, our love had all but lost its allure. We had two kids and our own careers to nurture. There wasn’t much time left over for our relationship. But, once I reclaimed my body and my life, I turned my attention there. I wanted to create a deeper love. I wanted to bring excitement back. And if there was anything my body had been teaching me throughout this crazy journey… it was that anything is possible and pleasure is mine for the taking! So I focused my body’s attention on my marriage, and I followed her cues and listened to her desires. My body told me to focus on hisbody. My desires told me to explore his desires. My body was curious.
SHE (my body) seemed to always be asking the same question: How can I make hisbody happier? Now, in case your mind is in the gutter, get it out because I’m not talking only in terms of erotic happiness. I’m talking about a deep, passionate, supportive, uplifting, life changing kind of happiness. She wanted to explore how my behavior and interactions with my husband could elevate him each and every day.
Understanding the power of simply occupying my full feminine form helped me realize the profound differences between my feminine sexual essence and his masculine sexual essence. Once I became so full within myself; I no longer needed him to fill me up. I could focus on being a brilliant, loving partner with no expectation or need for reciprocity. I could focus on this because it was what I truly wanted to focus on. And because I was following my desire, I could love from a full and overflowing place. He responded in kind. When you allow your feminine to express it’s most radiant and authentic self, it’s almost impossible for others not to meet you there.
Our love blossomed into this current Epic Love story. Each of these parts of my life went from “fine” to “EPIC” in exactly the order I wrote above.
Because if you fulfill your body, your body will fulfill your life, and your life will attract and fulfill your love.
If you take this journey yourself, as I did, then you too will live the Epic story you were put on this earth to live. Curious about becoming EPIC? Freely explore here on my blog – continue to read what piques your interest. I always suggest going in order, but in a feminine world there is no order… so start where you want!
